Several years ago, I sat down for coffee with the leader of a well-established organization. I’ll call him Mark. As we talked, Mark detailed a genuinely inspiring vision for their future. I asked, “So, what are your next steps to create this vision?”

Unexpectedly, the question deflated him. “I don’t think people are ready for it yet,” Mark replied. He explained how many of their people were “married to the status-quo” and how they might lose engagement if he initiated change. He began to talk about how change is always hard and there is always resistance.

Then he shifted. He began to suggest that it might be worth losing some people. And his voice took on a defiant tone.

I liked his vision, but doubted his judgment. I started informally polling people within the organization just to get a pulse of where they were.  From what I heard, they actually shared the same vision as Mark. They genuinely wanted change. In fact, they reported that Mark had been hinting at this change for some time; and they couldn’t understand what was holding him up.

Mark was afraid of many things: fear of losing trust, fear of failure, fear of the unknown.

As a result, he was why they were stuck. Instead of recognizing or owning that it was his ‘stuff’ that was holding them back; he blamed others.

This is a common leadership struggle. Mark is not a bad guy. In fact, most leaders struggle with fear. Perhaps, it isn’t fear of initiating change; but it may be a fear of not measuring up, losing approval, making the wrong decision or of conflict itself.

Fear is one of the most formidable enemies that any leader will face. It is what prevents us from taking advantage of opportunities, making timely changes, or receiving assistance. It is what builds the towers of isolation that many leaders find themselves trapped within.

There are three main categories of fear that a leader will confront:

1. Fear of the Unknown: This is the same fear that we had as children – the fear of what went ‘bump’ in the night. We don’t know what’s there; but we fear horrible things.

Antidote: Turn the light on. Get accurate and current information. Solicit feedback from a wide variety of sources. Successful leaders identify their fears and ensure they have adequate information to know what they are actually facing. Truth usually dispels fear.

2. Fear of The Assumed: This is similar to the Fear of the Unknown. The difference is the Fear of the Assumed means that the leader has created a vivid story that ‘fills in the blanks’ of the unknown. This is actually more crippling then Fear of the Unknown because leaders believe they actually do know.

I hear these stories nearly every day. They are incredibly detailed and usually have little basis in reality. Leaders assume that confronting a staff performance issue will end in tears.  We assume that change will be resisted.  We assume that no one will support us. Leaders can also assume they know what others think, feel and believe.

Antidote: Test your assumptions. Even the most highly intuitive, intelligent leader isn’t all-knowing. Practice humility and test your assumptions. Identify the stories you tell yourself. Verify the accuracy as best as you can. Always go to the source. This usually means a conversation that, for some reason, is intimidating to the leader.  Exercise courage.

3. Fear of Verified Reality: This is the least common cause for fear. It is different than Fear of the Unknown, because we’ve ‘turned the light on’ and there is, in fact, a monster under the bed. It is different than the Fear of the Assumed because we have real evidence that this is not a friendly monster.

Antidote: Preparation. Preparation is the best way to face genuine challenges. Don’t wait for a problem to emerge. I once worked in international disaster relief. I primarily worked in conflict zones. Giving in to flight, fight or freeze responses could easily get someone hurt or killed. We needed to be prepared for the reasonably expected as well as the unexpected.

For the reasonably expected: Regularly examine your environment and determine what new threats or challenges you might need to prepare for, and which are no longer relevant. Make basic preparations that will get your team, or organization, to a place of basic security (preparing for event A, B or C).  This might mean building a financial reserve, or forging agreements with partner organizations, or improving leadership skills across the organization.

For the unexpected: Practice and maintain good communication with your team. Create and maintain a healthy, responsive organization. Stay aware of your environment and correct organizational myopia. Maintain financial and ‘goodwill’ reserves to draw from (goodwill reserves are favors that you can count on from others when you are in need). Familiarize yourself with the typically unused resources that your team has to offer. Identify and be willing to use resources external to your organization. Avoid operating in isolation.

Effective leadership requires courage. Sometimes, the most difficult leadership challenges have more to do with facing down the imagined stories we believe. Whatever these stories actually do for us – they aren’t helping us be more effective leaders.

Begin to face your fears. Begin by exploring the unknown and testing your assumptions.

What imagined stories are keeping you from effective leadership and growth? What one antidote will you implement this season to move you, your team and your organization forward?  Add your COMMENT BELOW…